Self-Esteem Therapy for Men in Richmond VA
Stop Living for Approval and Start Living for Yourself
It hits like a gut punch when it finally dawns on you: “Oh shit, I’m not laid back at all. I’m a pushover.”
For years you may have told yourself that you go with the flow or that you like to keep the peace. But underneath, you resent how much you bend yourself to fit what others want.
You show your good side to everyone. You hide the real stuff. You smile and say “I’m good” even when you are falling apart. Your worth rises and falls with other people’s approval.
It is an exhausting and lonely way of living.
People Pleasing Is Not Kindness. It Is Fear.
Fear of disapproval. Fear of conflict. Fear of not being enough.
Your entire sense of self may hinge on whether someone likes you. If they do not, it feels like failure. If they talk about you behind your back, it crushes you.
And the worst part is that you almost never feel like the real you. You feel fake or unseen, as if you are living behind a mask.
How Therapy Helps
This is not about “relaxation” or positive thinking. Burnout is not fixed by inspirational quotes, bubble baths, or forcing gratitude.
Burnout is a sign that something in your life is out of alignment. Therapy helps you slow down enough to see what is actually draining you and what needs to change.
In our work together, you will learn to:
- Understand the real causes of your burnout
- Relate to stress differently instead of letting it run your day
- Rebuild routines that support your energy, not drain it
- Set boundaries without guilt
- Restore balance between work, family, and your inner life
- Feel like yourself again
This is practical, grounded work. It’s not about talking in circles. It’s about getting your life back.
The Goal
A life that feels manageable again. More clarity. More energy. More presence. Less resentment. Less spiraling. Less putting out fires all day.
You deserve to feel like a human being, not a machine.
How Self-Confidence Therapy and ACT Helps Build Real Self-Worth
Contrary to popular opinion, you do not have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. That idea is nonsense.
The real task is learning to have compassion for yourself and to challenge the negative stories your mind has rehearsed for years.
Together we work on:
- Seeing thoughts like “I am not good enough” for what they are: thoughts
- Dropping the endless self-criticism
- Speaking up when something matters
- Allowing yourself to take up space
- Letting your real personality show
- Building confidence through small, consistent action
- Accepting the equipment you were born with and living your life, not someone else’s
You do not need to love every part of yourself. Don’t believe anyone who tells you that. You do need to learn to accept every part of yourself even as you change for the better.
You Can Step Into Your Own Life
You can stop trying to be what you think others want. You can stop disappearing to keep the peace. You can stop building a life around fear and start building one around truth.
Schedule a free consultation and let’s start the work.
We offer treatment for self-esteem in Richmond and online across Virginia.
“You were born an original. Do not die a copy.”
– John Mason