Counseling for Addictions for Men in Richmond, VA

When One Is Too Many and a Thousand Is Not Enough

Most addictions start as a way to take the edge off. A drink to loosen up. A hit to relax. A gambling session to escape. A porn binge to numb out. It works for a while. Until it doesn’t.

At some point you start making promises to yourself. You tell yourself you won’t do it again, or at least not as much as last time.

Then another voice shows up and tells you that you deserve it. That life is too short. That you can handle it this time. So you give in.

Then the guilt hits. The shame. The consequences. And the whole cycle repeats.

If any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone and you are not broken. You are caught in a conditioned loop.

The word addiction comes from a Latin term meaning “enslaved to.” Most men struggling with addiction know exactly what that feels like.

You Don’t Have to Call Yourself An Addict

You might not think of yourself as an addict. You don’t have to.

But when you look at your patterns, you may notice something:

  • If others have two or three, you have five or seven.
  • If most people can take it or leave it, you can’t stop thinking about it.
  • What once felt fun or relaxing has turned into something you do for relief.
  • You structure your day around it.
  • You hide it. Even subtly.
  • You minimize it.

And worst of all, it may have started interfering with the things that matter most.

Family. Work. Friendships. Your health. Your sense of self.

This is not about weak willpower. This is about learning a new way to relate to urges, cravings, guilt, and shame so the behavior loses its grip on you.

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How Therapy Helps

This is not about “relaxation” or positive thinking. Burnout is not fixed by inspirational quotes, bubble baths, or forcing gratitude.

Burnout is a sign that something in your life is out of alignment. Therapy helps you slow down enough to see what is actually draining you and what needs to change.

In our work together, you will learn to:

  • Understand the real causes of your burnout
  • Relate to stress differently instead of letting it run your day
  • Rebuild routines that support your energy, not drain it
  • Set boundaries without guilt
  • Restore balance between work, family, and your inner life
  • Feel like yourself again

This is practical, grounded work. It’s not about talking in circles. It’s about getting your life back.

The Goal

A life that feels manageable again. More clarity. More energy. More presence. Less resentment. Less spiraling. Less putting out fires all day.

You deserve to feel like a human being, not a machine.

An ACT Approach to Counseling for Substance Abuse

Addiction thrives on avoidance. Avoiding discomfort. Avoiding emotion. Avoiding thoughts.

In ACT, we learn how to turn toward what you have been running from so the urge loses its power.

Together we will:

  • Understand what you are trying to escape
  • Drop the self-blame and the endless beating yourself up
  • Build skills so the urge peaks and passes without you acting on it
  • Reconnect with values you have been drifting away from
  • Build a life where you no longer need the addiction to cope

This is about accepting the mind and body you have been given and learning to navigate cravings in a way that leads to freedom, not more punishment.

You Don’t Have To Do This Alone

Addiction isolates people. Recovery requires company. If you do not reach out to us, reach out to someone. This is not a path men walk alone.

Schedule your free 15-minute consultation and let’s start the work.

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We offer counseling for addictions in Richmond and online across Virginia. 

“One is too many, a thousand is never enough.”

– Tom McGuane

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